“The grass is greener where you water it”

-Neil Barringham


As a couples (premarital, married, or partnered) and family therapist, my goal is to help individuals recognize destructive and maladaptive behaviors that manifest themselves through ineffective communication. I help individuals to identify effective ways to engage in creating a loving, trusting, and nurturing environment for all.

Conflict and disagreements are a normal part of any relationship. When arguments get out of control, they become counterproductive, hurtful, and emotionally charged. I assist couples with learning fair fighting rules and how to discuss issues tactfully without hurting the other person’s feelings or damaging the relationship beyond repair. Research has shown that it is not the conflict that destroys the relationship, it is how the conflict is handled.

“10% of conflict is due to a difference in opinion, and 90% is due to the delivery and tone of voice.”


We will also learn how to healthily discuss “hot topics”, such as trust, respect, appreciation, love languages, sex, intimacy, infidelity, finances, parenting children/step-children(bonus children), and abusive behaviors.

Divorce and separation can be an emotionally charged events, but it is possible to have a cordial, respectful breakup. If divorce or separation has been decided as a pathway to reaching peace and happiness for each party, then we can process and identify the healthiest way to transition the family. We will discuss ways to cope with the feelings and emotions of the whole family and the best co-parenting strategies for your situation.

I look forward to working with you as a couple and/or family.

The SYMBIS Assessment covers more than two-dozen particular dimensions based upon research studies,

By engaging in a SYMBIS program with a certified SYMBIS facilitator, a couple can expect to gain knowledge about how to communicate specifically with their mate, discover the secret to reduce and resolve conflict, and to understand how money and family support impacts their relationship. Any couple looking for a means to build a foundation for their marriage, contact me so that we can discuss how to begin the SYMBIS assessment and program. The assessment takes appropriately 30 minutes to complete, the results of which we will explore together during session(s).

Save Your Marriage Before It Starts – SYMBIS 

SYMBIS is a comprehensive diagnostic/assessment tool used to assist couples (pre-marital, currently married, or second marriages) with strengthening their relationship. The SYMBIS assessment will generate a customized report specific to your circumstances and provides couples with insight into problem patterns and strategies for success.  Many married couples at various stages find the results to be extremely helpful.  For couples going through their second marriage, there is a section of the report dedicated to second marriages and blended families.

The dimensions include:

  • Marriage Mindset
  • Self-concept
  • Maturity
  • Independence
  • Longevity
  • Stability
  • Similarity
  • Stress
  • Psychological Caution Flags
  • Cohabitation
  • Unrealistic Expectations
  • Baggage
  • Social Support
  • In-law Relationships
  • Cultural Context
  • Spiritual Beliefs
  • Finances
  • Role Expectations
  • Personality
  • Love
  • Sex
  • Attitudes and Happiness
  • Communication
  • Bridging the Gender Gap
  • Conflict Management
  • Spiritual Intimacy
  • Re-marriage (if relevant)
  • Blending a Family (if relevant)

Please feel free to contact us, to explore how we can be helpful during this time.


(248) 284-4226