“The grass is greener where you water it”

-Neil Barringham

As a couples (premarital, married, or partnered) and family therapist, my goal is to help individuals recognize destructive and maladaptive behaviors that manifest themselves through ineffective communication. I help individuals to identify effective ways to engage in creating a loving, trusting, and nurturing environment for all.

Conflict and disagreements are a normal part of any relationship. When arguments get out of control, they become counterproductive, hurtful, and emotionally charged. I assist couples with learning fair fighting rules and how to discuss issues tactfully without hurting the other person’s feelings or damaging the relationship beyond repair. Research has shown that it is not the conflict that destroys the relationship, it is how the conflict is handled.

“10% of conflict is due to a difference in opinion, and 90% is due to the delivery and tone of voice.”

-Unknown

We will also learn how to healthily discuss “hot topics”, such as trust, respect, appreciation, love languages, sex, intimacy, infidelity, finances, parenting children/step-children(bonus children), and abusive behaviors.

Divorce and separation can be an emotionally charged events, but it is possible to have a cordial, respectful breakup. If divorce or separation has been decided as a pathway to reaching peace and happiness for each party, then we can process and identify the healthiest way to transition the family. We will discuss ways to cope with the feelings and emotions of the whole family and the best co-parenting strategies for your situation.

I look forward to working with you as a couple and/or family.